Rivers of My Soul

Mad wife…

God this is hot!

- by ImaginePark

Uniquely Rika

Excerpts from a good book I picked up recently on FemDom relationships -

Dream Lover Labs

Looooooong time fantasy of mine! I hope they will eventually produce the product, tho after years of hearing about it, I’m skeptical. In the meantime they offer some great articles on Female lead relationships ~

Dream Lovers Laboratories

Too funny

Who says BDSM is all serious and melodramatic? Here are some funny things heard/read at Floating World 2010 contributed by various people;

“Excuse me, do you think that this cloth smells like chloroform?”

Best T shirt I saw “They never sacrifice the sluts”

“I’ve got a great idea. Hear me out…FIRE FISTING!”
“Yeah! There’s no way that could go wrong!”

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It used to be just fun…

Oh God! Rip my panties off me and fuck me!” (wait. Not this pair… they’re my favorites) Throw me onto the bed and take me! (Careful of my back…wait, move the pillows over…)
Tie me down (are you using a non-binding cuff? Otherwise my hands go to sleep…) and beat me! (be careful about bruises tho, it’s summer and I don’t want them showing under my bathing suit. And watch the wraps with that whip. Ow. Too hard!) and rape me! (not there, I didn’t clean myself there…) make me your slave! (but could you get me a glass of water first? And a warm washcloth? And let the dog out to pee on the way back. Then I’m all yours to do with as you please!) Please Master (*beep* Just a text message, hold on… okay. It’s nothing.) Master? Master, where are you going? Master?

Safe, Sane & Consentual

Safe, Sane & Consentual ~

Pick any two…  

Needs

“Relationships of this nature are very intense, powerful, and are very strong relationships.  I feel they are much more intense than any straight relationship.  There’s a trust, a need, a desire, a fulillment, a responsibility, a devotion, a bond that just isn’t the same in many other relationships.

As long as you keep the relationship in prospective and don’t let those feelings of love get in the way of dominating him or beating his ass, it will work. 

Many Mistresses have told me stories and their feelings became stronger and stronger for a slave, they found it harder to dominate them, harder to ‘hurt’ them.  Even if the slave was into pain!  This is the biggest mistake a Mistress can make in this sort of relationship.  Never go soft on them!  Sure, you can love them, but never let them forget who and what they are.  Your property! Your slave!  You must realize that both of you have needs.  He needs to be dominated and you need to dominate.  This is the way the two of you are together. 

The more your slave loves you the more he will give of himself, the more he will endure for you, the more he will adore and devote himself to you.  You however, must never loose sight of your responsibility to him either.  If at some point you can’t fulfill his needs, he will go elsewhere no matter how much he loves you. 

Do what you want – what makes you happy and I assure you his happiness will follow.  You ultimately want to condition him to want the things that you want him to want.  Condition-repetition-reward-discipline.” 
- Mistress Domino

My submissive, My Hero.

By Mystress Angelique Serpent
as written to the vanilla wife of a submissive male.

I think of my slaves as Knights in shining armor, and I am their Queen. Did you read the Faerie tales as a child and dream of white knights, too?

These are submissive men.

My slave’s prime directive is to enhance my happiness and well being in any way that they are able, but falling short of real hardship to themselves or their other responsibilities. (Some of my slaves have children.

This means doing dishes, or any other housework that the see needs doing, so that I don’t have to. Without my asking them to. Does your sweetie help with the housework? Does he usually ask you what you need him to do? Then you are leading and he is following, and you are being Dominant.

Other ways for my slaves to follow the prime directive, are by bringing me tea, cooking for me, running errands for me, and basically handling the dull stuff so I can have more fun. Also by giving me massages, especially foot massages, or pleasuring me in any way that I enjoy.

Taking me places, buying me presents, never interrupting me when I speak, and generally behaving towards me with the gallant manners of another century. I expect to get my doors opened, my bags carried, my hand kissed, my boots removed, to be helped with my coat.

I expect to receive romantic letters of love and adoration, flowers… well, what do you want more of from your man?

Likely there are many things you have desired of him, but in your feminine way, you did not ask them of him because you feared to be selfish. Well, it’s not selfish at all. Why? Because he enjoys doing things to please you, even more than you enjoy having things done. That is the nature of the beast.

Here is how it is: women are fed by love. Adoration. Men are fueled by ego. (I can hear the outcry from the sub males. no dice fellas, it’s true). The life and vitality of a man is measured by the health of his ego. Men need their egos fed, like they need air to breathe. It’s not his stomach. It’s his ego that you need to feed. It’s not his Mom’s cooking, it’s her approval and her spankings he seeks in you…

How does a man feed his ego?

Well, traditionally in some form of combat, or conquest. Basketball or the boardroom, or by pleasing a woman. Goddess devised the finest ego food for males. To make a woman laugh, or make her come. These things make a man feel like a king, and addiction to feeling like a king, makes him a slave.

Your slave.

Make me laugh by conquering my dirty kitchen, combating the dust on my floors, naked except for a collar. (I saw a collar once, designed as a leather Chippendales bow tie, very cute! Thought of it, as a crossover recognition signal for a new Domina.)

There will be challenge, as I inspect it as if I were Patton inspecting the troops, and a hero’s homecoming in my smile if I am pleased. If I am not pleased, then they must fix it. Men like to fix things. If I am very pleased, I might allow them the ego feast of making me come… heh, heh.

Smart

Queens keep their knights busy, doing things to earn Her favor. The more challenging the task, the more she shows faith in his heroism by delegating it to him. Go sail to America, Sir Walter Raleigh, and bring me back something interesting. Some gold, perhaps? Male speak: the toughest knight gets the most arduous quests. The wimpiest knight is ignored, and never thought of when there are heroic deeds to be done. He sits forlorn in a corner. The other knights make fun of him. His self-esteem crashes. Poor thing.Who wants wimpy men? I want strong, powerful, confident heroes to kneel at my feet and proclaim their love, devotion, servitude and loyalty. Then I’ll make them prove it. They may not know they have a hero inside of them when I claim them. But I know it is there.

By feeding it selectively I bring it out, and train it to please me. As carefully and selectively as the Military chooses officers. I investigate their good qualities, the care and feeding of their unique ego structure. I build up their self-esteem, until they feel themselves to be heroes, and sheer adoration and gratitude makes them kiss my feet and swear their loyalty.

That’s the essence of female domination, right there. It ain’t what most folks think. It’s better!! Coz leading a man around by the ego is even easier than leading him around by a tight grip on his balls.

Men are creatures of habit, so once they get addicted to a good source of ego food, they tend to stick with it. And they’ll fight to keep it like they’d fight for air. A man will do back flips for a woman who makes him feel like a hero.

It makes your man feel like a hero, to suffer pain and humiliation at a woman’s hands, and show her how strong and loyal he is. So no surprise he tends to get emotionally attached to the women who hit his hero button and speak his love language.

However, he has been with you for years, so you must be hitting a lot of them very well already. Your love and approval is the ego food to which he is truly addicted. I have read his posts and he loves you very much. The more love and approval you can find in yourself to give him, even if you cannot understand his needs, the more he will return to your bosom, so to speak.

I have read that you have agreed to watch him play with a pro Domina. I think that this is excellent. I understand your reluctance to see your husband hurt, but you must trust his strength, and instead of fearing for him, pay close attention to the signs of his ecstasy. You know him. Watch him with your woman’s eyes, watch the changes he goes thru.

Do not pity him, you know he does not seek pity for him, but instead notice his bliss. I think, that you will find that to be a revelation that moves you. Realize too, that having you there will make him nervous, and more excited than if it was only she and he.

Don’t think of it as anything but learning more about your beloved husband. Who he is. From the outside, it looks like bitchy women getting their own way.

From the inside, it is compassionate women giving love to others in the language that they understand it in, and using the control they have been given, to positively guide those who have given it. A good leader is in service to the needs of those she leads.

You say you will never be dominant, I say you already do dominate your hubby, every woman does. You just have not realized what it is. There is a part of you that wants him to do some things that you know would be good for him.

Domination can be a way to get him to do those things, and be motivated to do them because he finds them erotic, because you have told him to do them to show his subservience to you his Mistress.

Asking him to do things, while playing with a riding crop in your hand, smacking it lightly against your palm, will send him off on miles of mental fantasy delights, even if you never do bring yourself to actually use it on him. The pleasure of eroticism comes almost entirely from the mind, not the butt.

Once you understand his hero buttons, it can all become very playful and fun. It’s a game. As his Queen, you can delegate his whippings to someone else, if you need to, and still enjoy the love and adoration of a biddable, happy slave husband who only has eyes for you.

Shibaricon ’08

It’s all about the rope, baby!  Last week I did my first Shibaricon and it is destined to become one of my favorite events throughout the year from now on. 

Having been an event slut this year, I’ve attended Floating World, Dark Odyssey’s Summer and Winter, Black Rose, Thunder in the Mountains, C.O.P.E. and, and… geez I’ve lost track of ‘em all… but Shibaricon totally rocks.  More than any other event I’ve attended, there is a real loving, ‘family’ atmosphere about it.  And what a hot, sexy family it is!

Jimi Tatu did a marvelous job of setting the tone for a weekend of bondage by organizing a trip to the Andersen Japanese Gardens.  Nothing could be sexier than that.  That evening, the ‘Weaver family’ held their annual dinner together, welcoming all the new found extended family members and reconnecting with the old-timers.  A day of beauty, love, and caring… then it was time for some serious rope and pain!

I couldn’t possibly do justice to all the great moments and classes I attended.  There just aren’t enough adjectives to do it.  To name but a few – Lochai and Jimi Tatu presenting my Suze with a bondage ring, Greg & Jen’s beautiful, sensual wedding ceremony and Mark from dv8house’s amazing performance immediately afterwards. 

A couple hot suspensions with my beautiful Mistress, girl, lover Suze… even tho the high price of gas was proving to be a distraction in there. (wink.  Inside joke… sorry!)  Then relaxing in the dungeon while Mark Yu totally decimated Suze with his ankles, fingertips and a wicked hogtie.  Sometimes I think she could never look hotter than when she is suffering in rope!  Then again, when she gets that look in her eyes and some rope in her hands… <sigh> Damn, I love you girlfriend!

And the good times and ‘ah-ha’ moments just kept rolling.  Sir C’s hojojutsu class, Mark Yu’s ‘Manipulation of the Bound’ classes, Janice’s switches roundtable…

The only thing I missed (aside from about a dozen classes I couldn’t attend) was some top time with my Suze, but it was for a great reason and one that became another memorable moment in our lives as well as some other people’s too I think.   There will always be time for us and ‘Each moment, only once’ holds true.  Sometimes the moment needs to be what it needs to be. 

More later…  but for now, namaste my rope friends.